We’ve been discussing ways of increasing the trust between you and your partner. Catch up on the conversation by learning how to choose respect over disrespect and togetherness over separateness. Today, we’ll look at appreciation over envy.

If you and the woman you care about develop a pattern of living a life of appreciation, you will be much happier together. Not only will you appreciate those around you more, but you will also have a greater appreciation for each other.

If your heart lives in scarcity, it will show through expressions of jealousy, envy, and spite. Let your actions come from an attitude of abundance and you will be able to show appreciation for yourself, for your partner, and for others.

Instead of relating your day with your partner this way, ‘My co-worker just got promoted today, and it’s pissing me off. I have a mind to tell the boss how he was really taking long lunches and how many times I helped him out on projects without getting credit.’

Reframe the situation in a positive light. ‘Hey! My co-worker just got promoted today. It’s amazing how appearances count more than substance these days. You know honey, if you were a princess in my court, I’d promote you to queen because you have both inner and outer beauty!’

If you are having a sudden instinct which will lead you to expressing yourself from a point of envy, use this technique:

Control these urges before they reach the surface. If you feel an onset of spite, take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale. Check yourself, and then if you really need to, take another. Inhale. Exhale. Good. Now remember that you already have all that you need and it is always better to celebrate other’s successes with them rather than feel cut down or slighted.

We all develop, grow, and contribute together. If you always take the high road, this positive attitude will rub off on her and the two of you
will develop mutual trust.