Eat Sexy

The Social Arts and Aphrodisiacs This Tokyo Tea is ‘da bomb’! Would you like to try a sip?” I offered. Mmm. Yummy!” She cooed after sharing my beverage. It was the first indicator that she was happy to cooperate with my sensual escapades, and that she trusted me to not have cooties. It was on. During our first meal together, … Read More

Science of Attraction: Chemistry is Not an Accident

Attraction is Scientifically Based and Facilitated: A Multi-Part Series Exploring the Connections Between the Lab and the Real World We coached a biochemist in one of our recent bootcamps, and what he told us blew our mind. Research shows a direct connection between what happens on a molecular level in a woman’s brain when she is becoming attracted to a … Read More

Change Up the Conversation with The Switch Technique

Beautiful women are subjected to the same conversations over and over again. An unimaginative discussion follows well-worn paths of social convention. Most of those pathways are based on agreeing with whatever the woman says. Here’s an example of a traditional interaction. Her: I love rock music. Him: I do to! Aren’t the Eagles of Death Metal great? In this passage, … Read More

How to Get to Know a Woman Better: Themes for Conversational Flexibility

Some successful social artists prefer to think more in terms of “themes” than routines as that provides a tremendous amount of conversational flexibility. Thing is, many guys talk about the wrong themes. So, let’s look at how to lead her into a conversation about relationships – an all-time favorite female topic. Let’s say you’re talking fluff and you want to … Read More

Making the Transition

How to Establish a Strong Foundation for Your Relatinship It was a beautiful moment, the highlight of a great year, when she looked at me and said “Yes, I would love to be your girlfriend.” It was also a terrifying moment. As a social artist who had been immersed in the thrill of the chase and the grip of uncertainty … Read More

How to Make People Comfortable, Part 2

If you read our previous post on making people comfortable, you saw a lot of very simple ways that you can instantly make people — men, women, whoever — comfortable around you. Hopefully you tried them the next time you were socializing. That’s good. Even guys who’ve been around the block a few times can find little things that they’re … Read More

10 Relationship Questions for Assessing Compatibility

Have you ever been with someone who seemed ideal in the beginning of your relationship and then later—sometimes much later—you realized were definitely not meant to be together? Several years ago I was in a long-term relationship with a woman I was convinced was my soul mate. I told anyone who would listen that she was “the one.” We laughed … Read More

5 Questions for Couples to Keep the Spark Alive

Relationships Can Feel Like They’re Fading: Here’s How to Keep It Hot Here’s the bad news: love is fleeting. That is, the quantifiable chemical-induced euphoric component of early love is anyway. A groundbreaking 2010 Syracuse University study found that falling in love—the dopamine, testosterone and adrenaline, et al. dump that occurs in our brains in the early stages of a … Read More

How to Make People Comfortable, Part 1

6 Ways to Increase Comfort and Acceptance in the People You Meet If you can’t make people comfortable to be around you, you’re not going to attract women and you’re not going to make friends. Making people comfortable in your presence is the first step toward the process of attraction, whether you’re talking to the most beautiful girl at the … Read More

Date Losing Energy? Employ The Resuscitation Routine

During the course of a date, you may run out of things to say. You may feel your attention begin to wane and your mind wander. Or worse, you may notice your date going through these things. Even if you’re really interested in the woman and you’re really on your game, it can happen. You can employ the Resuscitation Routine … Read More