Peacock is a verb defined as, “to dress in loud clothing or with flashy accoutrements in order to get attention from women.” This concept excites novice social artists who have in the past repressed the desire to stand out. The travesty is that some social artists never make the transition from peacock to a more inner-defined style.
The wearing of neon cowboy hats and obscene feather boas can have advantages: they will get you noticed. As many master social artists espouse it doesn’t matter if a woman approaches you and says that she detests your “Hello Kitty” LED necklace or if she approaches you and strokes your drag-queen boa lovingly, she is now effectively opened for conversation. The job of your peacock item is complete. The flip side of this is that your peacock items will also draw negative male attention. This attention could be conveyed with verbal insults.
Another caveat of peacocking is the incongruence it can lead to in conversation with women. When approaching with a canned opinion opener there is a need to root it, there will be a need to also root an eccentric style choice. Statements such as, “We just came from a feather boa party” or “Oh, you didn’t get the memo it’s crazy cowboy hat night” can work when delivered playfully. If called out on your item failure to respond with cool confidence will display an incongruent personality. If you are going to dress in an outlandish confident manner you must also act in such a way, or else the purpose is lost. Remaining a peacock can lead to self limitation. It may help to wear these items as crutches in the first stages of learning as they allow you to assume a new identity. As you become more competent in the social arts it may be necessary to ask yourself if the peacock you is reality or a superficial costumed image. Actually possessing and portraying an interesting reality is more attractive in the long run than displaying a concocted persona built upon a foundation of shiny mesh shirts.
Our solution to you all is to peacock in a congruent manner. Take the time to invest in your self-image by increasing your knowledge of style. Once upon a time when men were known as gentlemen we all knew how to pick out a suit or what color accessories to wear. In a day and age where most men find it suitable to wear sports jersey and ball caps to all occasions, simply being well dressed is peacocking. Having a sense of style sub-communicates to all women that you are wealthy enough to own nice things, you are intelligent enough to pay attention to detail and you are caring enough to present a positive image. By taking the steps needed to become a better dressed man you aren’t spackling a hole in your personality – you are building a whole new skill set. There is no pretending here at dressing up. If you are reading about style, seeking out new fashions and dressing more sharply then you are living your vision. That is congruency. We all know women respect congruency.
Everyone has in their mind an image of the way they want to dress. Make that image a reality. Sit down and put some serious thought into what you want to convey. Write down three amazing attributes about yourself that you would prefer to be noticed during a first impression and brainstorm a style option for each that would allow this. Subscribe to one or several of the many notable men’s fashion magazines. Go through your wardrobe and toss out the stale and worn clothes that you never use. Make a plan of the items you want to purchase to complete your new looks. Decide to go shopping on a regular basis, at least once a month. Ask copious opinions from trusted friends, especially female ones, about your style choices. Take the steps to dress yourself well not for a moment but for life. Once you’ve changed notice the heads that turn. Hear the compliments mentioned from female lipstick lips and smile with stylish pride.
