Meeting women is a game of value. The more value you can acquire the easier the game becomes. Value can come in a number of different forms, such as money, worldliness, status, and many more. One form of value called social proof is gained from the people you know and the crowd that surrounds you.

To understand social proof, imagine two different scenarios. In the first scenario, a man walks into a bar, after stepping through the front door he looks around, and doesn’t see anyone he knows. He then walks over to a table and sits by himself. A few minutes later he approaches the most attractive woman in the bar, his opener is perfect and he has good body language, but for some reason she shoots him down.

Now imagine the same man walking into the bar with a beautiful woman on each arm. When he walks in he’s greeted by a number of friends and seems to know everyone at the bar. When he talks, people stand around and listen. Through the night he is seen talking to a number of different women. Later on he walks up to the most attractive woman in the bar opens perfectly, with great body language; she immediately begins to show interest in him.

What is the difference between these two scenarios? Social Proof. In the first scenario, this guy appears to have no social value. In the second everyone knows him proving to the women in the room that not only does he have a large group of friends but also that he is preselected by women. Friends are evidence of value. The more friends the more value.

Is it possible to give the appearance of social proof without a large group of friends? Yes it is, but it can be tricky.

You can make it appear as though you have social proof by quickly opening sets and merging them. Here is a quick guide to social proof generation.

1. Walk in and smile. Approach and open the first group you see. Spend a few minutes chatting and then do a takeaway. If you have a wing, send him to open a different set.

2. Quickly find the next set that you can open. Even if there is no girl you are interested in, open them. They can still give you value.

3. Introduce that group of people to the first group of people that you met. This is called backwards merging. Essentially, you’ve just shown both groups of people that you have a number of friends in the bar.

A second option is to merge with the set you wing just opened. Then while one of you stays with the larger set, the other leaves to open a new set to merge with the larger one you’ve created.