“All great lovers are articulate, and verbal seduction is the surest road to actual seduction.” – Marya Mannes
If you’ve ever wanted to be the guy who could turn up the seduction knob in your nightly conversations, then you’re going to have to do exactly what you’re about to read. Next time you’re out at nightclub, take a look at the shoes the girl nearest to you is wearing. Now take a look at yours. They’re different right? Now, take a moment, and imagine yourself in them.
The key to seductive conversation is the ability to see yourself from someone else’s perspective. How do you imagine your conversations sound from her point of view? Do you sound like the charmer you thought you were? Or are you just another guy saying the same guy things in the same guy ways? The following three lessons will help you add some seductive flavor to your bland everyday conversation:
3 Lessons for Speaking Seductively
Speak with Emotion:
“Feelings! I don’t go by feelings! That would get you killed in war!” – Henry Rollins
The ability to alter emotional states is a key component in seduction. By choosing the right words and speaking in with the right attitude, you can mold emotional states like clay. Be passionate about what you say. When you respond to people’s stories, do it with real curiosity.
–Ask yourself, “What is this person’s emotional state? What emotional state do I want them in? What can I say to change it?”
–Pay attention to the patterns in their emotional states. Find a way to change the pattern and you will stand out in her mind.
Strategically Flatter Her
“The aim of flattery is to soothe and encourage us by assuring us of the truth of an opinion we have already formed about ourselves.” – Dame Edith Sitwell
Everyone needs to be validated in one way or another. The key to real flattery is the ability to deduce what part of a person needs to be validated. Telling a beautiful girl that she “has amazing eyes” won’t get you anywhere, because she’s already been complimented on them thousands of times. You’re just the next guy. Instead, find something that she is insecure about in her life, compliment her on this and she’ll never forget you.
–Use your compliments to ease any insecurities and doubts they have about themselves.
–Stay away from complimenting anything that she is known for or is complimented on regularly.
–In most cases the compliments should not be sexual.
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