You walk by the beautiful women, turn your head and over your shoulder, you ask their opinion. You tell them you can’t stay long and that you only need to ask them because you’re in an argument with your friends. Your body language is perfect. You’re standing correctly you turn at just the right time and you’re voice is loud enough for the whole group to hear you.

The perfect opener, yet, for some reason, the set doesn’t open.

What’s missing?

If you don’t have a smile on your face then I suggest you get one because I’m about to reveal to you an answer that can change your life.

What’s missing is a smile.

If you’ve forgotten what one looks like then here is a reminder.

: ) ← Smile

Many of you (probably all of you) are familiar with The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss yet many aspiring social artists miss one of the first lessons in the book.

1. Smile when you open a set. (Pg. 35)

Go back and read it for yourself. It’s one of the first lessons in the book.
Now… on to the lesson.

Smiling is the second best thing you can do with your mouth. – Anonymous

If you don’t smile, you are a threat.

The purpose of smiling, as far as nature is concerned, was to let our ancient tribal relatives know if an approaching human was friend or foe. In other words, a good smile shows people that you are non-threatening as well as friendly and playful. So, when you approach that set of beautiful women and don’t have a smile on your face, their ancient mental circuitry tells them that you are a threat. It tells them that their cave guys should kill you before you kill them.

Obviously, this kind of reaction doesn’t happen very often anymore, but the idea is still the same. Smile and you are not a threat.
You should also know, when you don’t smile it can make you seem threatened. Smile so that people know that you are not afraid. You are confident, comfortable and authentic. Also, smile because it feels good.

If you don’t smile, you appear to have low value.

Smile when you’re moving about in your favorite venue. Smiling, as well as laughing, are signals to people around that we are happy. Guys who aren’t successful with women in a club are generally not seen smiling. Trust me when I say, women will notice this. You want to be seen smiling. You want to be smiling when you open. In addition, smile before she sees you. It’s important that you’re not smiling for her. You’re smiling for yourself.

Don’t fake it, Smile for real.

Real smiles can’t be faked. They’re a subconsciously generated. The brain sends out a number of signals when you feel something pleasurable that activate muscles around the mouth as well as the eyes and forehead. These muscles are activated only when you’re really smiling. They cannot be consciously activated. A fake/forced smile only uses the muscles around the mouth.

Smiling is like catching like a virus.

If you give off a genuine smile then you will receive a genuine smile. Next time you’re out with your friends and something extremely funny happens, turn your head and make eye contact with a girl. You’ll notice that she smiles back. Once other people smile because you’re smiling then they’re in your frame. You’re controlling the group and you’re the one that has the gorgeous women standing around you and smiling genuine beautiful smiles.

Lastly, remember that smiling is something that should be happening naturally. So, when you’re out, smile first, then let her see you. As you become more successful and more confident you’ll find yourself smiling more. If you find yourself in field and you can’t get a real smile on, then here is a tool to get yourself a real authentic smile. Fake it, but while your faking it call up some past experiences that made you smile, you’ll notice that fake smile will turn into a real smile. Turn and open the closest group of people while you have that real smile on your face. The result will make you smile.