A lot of men feel the negative emotions associated with Approach Anxiety crop up when they see a woman who catches their eye. Quite often, those negative feelings are related to the inordinate amount of pressure the man puts on the situation. You might do something similar to this: “I have to make a good impression or she’s going to … Read More
How Halloween Helps You Avoid Approach Anxiety
You know what it’s like… Standing there, looking at a woman across the bar that you’d like to meet. But you’re locked in place, unable to move. You feel like everyone in the bar will come to a complete halt. A hush will fall over the venue. A single spotlight will shine down on you. And they will all watch, … Read More
5 Simple Ways to Bust Through Approach Anxiety
One of the biggest obstacles that every social artist encounters is Approach Anxiety. Every man fears the social and sexual humiliation of being blown out, plus it is evolutionarily hardwired into our systems from our history as a tribal society. Over the generations, we have learned to shield ourselves, to protect ourselves from harm. As a result, we don’t like … Read More
Stay One Step Ahead
As soon as you approach a woman or group of people you don’t know, they think two things: 1) What does he want? 2) How long is he going to stay here? If you can satisfactorily answer both of these questions, you can avoid the sting of rejection. If not, you will hear the words that are the anathema of … Read More
Occupation Overhaul
It’s a lucky few who get to work the job of their dreams. Many occupations we hold are stepping stones or speed bumps along the path to the job of our dreams. Unfortunately, some may be boring, others tedious, but we’ve all had to deal with them. Certainly, being 21, in college, and working at a local Starbucks is not … Read More
The Second Date
Emma writes… As I thought about what precipitates a second date, I decided to call in reinforcements. For me, first impressions are everything. If I am not completely enamored with someone on the first date, I cannot bring myself to see him again. A mediocre date means I’m on to the next person. However, after years of asking men and … Read More
Never Forget the Name Mnemonics Routine
Here’s a classic, tried-and-true routine that serves several purposes in the field. The Name Mnemonics Routine is a fun way to teach a group how visualizations is a more effective memory tool. Oh, and by the way, if you’re unsure? It’s pronounced “neh-ma-nic.” The initial letter m is essentially silent. But here’s why it’s such an effective tool. First, it … Read More
Thundering Over Loud Club Music
The pounding of club music can be a huge challenge for most guys who are new to the game. Many people find themselves having trouble communicating over the loud, repetitive sounds of the night club. If you’re not used to the noise it can be hard to think, let alone communicate! This exercise is an easy way for any guy … Read More
Becoming Just Friends
Emma writes… For a while I secretly believed the friend zone was this fictitious state of mind that guys get into when they are too afraid to make a move. In the dreaded friend zone, I offered three choices: 1) Walk away. 2) Be bold and speak your mind. 3) Stay stagnant friends and live in mediocrity. Keep in mind … Read More
Standout Style
Emma writes: Style, like religion and politics, can be ingrained in us from an early age. The dads who played golf raise boys who wear khakis, Polos and Sperry Topsiders. The fashionista mom has a fashionista daughter or son or both. The musically inclined father doesn’t place importance on haircuts, and thus, raises Slash’s doppelganger. Hippie moms have Birkenstock-wearing young. … Read More